3 types of men NOT to dat (Pt. 2)

Before you read this please read the Pt. 1 because only then can you understand this Pt.2.

So last time i wrote about the 3 types of men not to date namely the Neanderthals, the Sigmunds and the Quilts. But like Abdoul mentioned it looks like we would have to eliminate all the men in the world because most men fall into at least one of the three categories.

There is no perfect man but there is the right man for a woman, but the woman has to know who she is as a person to know what kind of man she can date. The point is using the disadvantages to your advantage.

1. Neanderthal: because they are the macho ones, that find it hard to express their feelings but want to be pampered. As a woman, you have to be a RESERVED TYPE, when i say reserved i mean gentle and willing to submit. If you are not that kind of women then do not attempt to date the neanderthal.

Try to make them appreciate you in private and never push it in public because his pals are around, you really don't want to make him look bad.

He is naturally a dictator, so you have to make him feel like he is the ones that brings up the ideas and you only obey them. If you are not patient enough to wait for him to accept your ideas then you are not with the right man for you. Never oppose him in public cos he will shut you down.

Never accept a spoken apology but his works will speak for him.

2. Sigmunds: these are the ones that know how to mess with your head so they do not need a gentle woman, they need a woman that is OPINIONATED, women that know who they are and what they want in life and are confident of themselves.

The first key is beating them to their game, for example lie about something that you like and try to elaborate on it, if they cannot elaborate on it then they do not really know anything about it. Do not let it slide, face that problem head on, that's  why you have to be opinionated as a woman.

When they try to play the self pity game, use their weaknesses to compliment them. An example is he thinks he is not cute enough and you are too good to be with him, your reply is you are cute enough for me, i don't want other women looking at you all the time cause you are the best. Almost like being a Sigmund yourself.

Having a good self esteem is something that is very important in this relationship because the sigmund will not be able to use your weakness against you.

Never let them focus on past mistakes, it does not give them the chance to make you think they are the victim.

3. Quilts: they need women that are INDEPENDENT and HARDWORKING due to their uselessness to you. They need women who will push them to be useful in one way or the other. So if you are lazy and passive as a woman please do not date a quilt because you'll both die of uselessness.   If you are a successful woman that wants all the attention and does not want to be outshined then the quilt is best for you. But remember what may be a quilt to you could be very useful to another woman somewhere.

In conclusion, No man is perfect but the key is finding the right man for you. Define who you are first then you'll know who you are compatible with.

3 Types of men NOT to date

After a couple of personal experiences and experiences of my friends I have come to the realization that there are certain kinds of men that need to be eliminated from the face of the earth thus they should be tagged as undateable to any woman in the world. These men all fall into 3 categories which are the Neanderthals, Sigmunds and the Quilts.

1. Neanderthals: No i am not talking about the specie that became extinct about 350,000 years ago, i am talking about the ones that live in this present day acting like they are the strongest men on the face of the planet.  Characteristics of these men are:
• Lack of emotion: they find it hard to tell you that they care for you even if they do, they believe just dating you is enough emotion they can give to you. The act of respecting and caring for a woman is no where in their agenda  because it is seen as a sign of weakness amongst their fellow neanderthals.
• Lack of Trust: they would almost never trust you, they believe every boy/man you talk to is your other man and thus they make you cut off all your male friends and maybe some female ones too because you want to please them.
• Dictators: they never want to hear your opinion, whatever you say or suggest is crap to them. They believe that they are the best and no other person can correct them.
• Don't ever expect them to apologize because it is a sign of weekness and they can never be weak
2. Sigmunds: These are the philosophers, the ones that mess up with your head before you realize what's going on, they are generally the nice guys that play girls but they are almost never caught because they are that good. Their charateristics are:
• Date to please: they usually claim to like whatever you like and they act like they understand you better than anyone else. The truth is they know what you are thinking before you do and probably have sisters or read female magazines so they know how to get to the soft spot of the prey (women).
• Self Pity: Unfortunately, not all of them are that good looking in one way or the other, so they make you feel like you are the best that came their way (which may be true) and all they want is for you to feel bad for them constantly. Everytime you threaten to breakup with them, they soon relate it to their looks or financial inability or whatever their shortcomings are.
• Provider: They want to act as your provider, what they do is that they find where you are lacking or whatever it is that makes you incomplete and they provide for you in that way. Examples include giving you money if you lack financialy, love if  you lack love, understanding if you think no one understands you, support if you think you lack support, self esteem if you think you are not good enough, and so much more.
• Past Mistakes: they are the first to bring up stories about their past and sometimes have mean things to say about their ex's. Notice how in all their stories, they are the victims, it's all a facade so you can pity them even more.
3. Quilts: Now they are the perfect example of "good from far but far from good" also known as rejects. They are a rare combination of both the neanderthals and the sigmunds. Think of a quilt literally, it's stuff left over from clothes and dresses, they are too small to be used so in other words they are practically useless. In addition to the characteristics of the neanderthals and the sigmunds they have one more special characteristic and that is:
• Nothing to offer: they in most cases have nothing to offer, not money, security, intelligence. They usually look good but inside they are absolutely nothing and have nothing to offer.

Disclaimer: This is an opinion of Sheila Ojei, so if you are a man and you are offended by this..too bad......and if you're a woman and you know someone that falls into one of this...umm yea go figure.

If a man wants you...

to be nice or not to be nice....

it's amazing how the people that are the nicest are the ones that are constantly being taken for granted and treated like trash, at moments like this i want to get bitchy and see what anyone has to say at least then no one will have the guts to say crap to me. But when it is not part of my nature, i hesitate and think back on some people that actually care about me and my feelings, then i realize it's not that bad to be nice to people after all.

that's all i have to say to this unjust world

Good thing to find...